I found this in a journal entry from last september. I thought it funny, considering another friend's current plights.

"It is not the difficulty that makes a relationship fail, but the unwillingness to do whatever is necessary to make it work, meaning undeserved forgiveness, unasked for sacrifices, even unrequited love."

I don't mean one of you, but both people have to do this. Because then you both have the same goal, which is not avoiding trouble, but is making the relationship stronger and better. And it applies to friendships as well. Of course it always has to be weighed against whether or not the relationship is worth this level. But when it is, there's nothing you can do but do it or get scared and quit. [shakes his head] I think Cupid needs to stop being such an ass and look at the people he's shooting, so that everyone can find their perfect mate, and not just someone to share their life with despite the misery and pain they cause each other.